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I didn’t want to play her as this femme fatale—she was a genuine evangelical with a real religious belief in the Reformation … Anne really influenced the world, behind closed doors but she’s given no explicit credit because she wasn’t protected.Let’s not forget, too, that history was written by men. And even now, in our post-feminist era we still have women struggle in public positions of power.

Teachers are often unaware of the gender distribution of talk in their classrooms. They usually consider that they give equal amounts of attention to girls and boys, and it is only when they make a tape recording that they realize that boys are dominating the interactions. Dale Spender, an Australian feminist who has been a strong advocate of female rights in this area, noted that teachers who tried to restore the balance by deliberately ‘favouring’ the girls were astounded to find that despite their efforts they continued to devote more time to the boys in their classrooms. Another study reported that a male science teacher who managed to create an atmosphere in which girls and boys contributed more equally to discussion felt that he was devoting 90 per cent of his attention to the girls. And so did his male pupils. They complained vociferously that the girls were getting too much talking time.

In other public contexts, too, such as seminars and debates, when women and men are deliberately given an equal amount of the highly valued talking time, there is often a perception that they are getting more than their fair share. Dale Spender explains this as follows:

“The talkativeness of women has been gauged in comparison not with men but with silence. Women have not been judged on the grounds of whether they talk more than men, but of whether they talk more than silent women.”

In other words, if women talk at all, this may be perceived as ‘too much’ by men who expect them to provide a silent, decorative background in many social contexts.

PBS: Language as Prejudice - Myth #6: Women Talk Too Much (via misandry-mermaid)

On the hunger »

dearcoquette:

Have you ever lost the hunger? You seem like someone who consumes everything and delights in it all. But have you ever lost it, for even a period of time? If so, how did you get it back? Is the hunger of discovery and experience something that can be taught or practiced without being born with…

“I used to think that I could never lose anyone if I photographed them enough. In fact, my pictures show me how much I’ve lost”

– Nan Goldin (via artdiscover)

On being easy »

dearcoquette:

Some advice: if you fuck on the first-date, he probably won’t come back for a second. If the sex was hot and he does come back enjoy becoming fuck-buddies, because by fucking on the first-date, you’ve essentially told him by your actions: “I’m easy and definitely not the type of girl you’ll be…

sitting in genesis
yeezy on repeat

hands on my thigh
fingertips around my neck

forehead kisses

laughter inbetween lip touches

you set my body electric

i miss us like this
at our most simplistic

“My heart didn’t break into a thousand pieces after he left. Instead, I realized all the things he didn’t do. He didn’t want to hear my stories. He didn’t ask me questions. He didn’t hug me out of the blue to make me feel good. His hugs were always a preamble to something else, and after he was gone, I wondered if he ever knew me at all.”

– Diane Les Becquets  (via thatkindofwoman)

I’m not a skinny girl.

I have never been a ‘skinny’ girl.

But that’s okay. Or at least, I hope, one day it will be.

I don’t know.